Any relationship between two people is a system resulting from their behavior in their modes of communication, combining personal data from conscious and unconscious , present or older . When members of a couple no longer speak frankly – even when the real reason is to avoid an argument – comes a truce unpleasant. It might seem safe , even clever, but I believe that such a truce has a price . Long relationships often go through such periods . Sometimes it takes only a few hours , sometimes extending over several days or even weeks . The important thing is to know how to recognize them and manage them . The biggest challenge of these moments of boredom is not our beloved blame for how we feel .