Results of studies on infidelity are extremely diverse . When the researchers asked men and women if they have ever cheated partner , men tended to brag about their alleged infidelities . In contrast, women downplay , lie and hide their infidelities . Women have very good reasons for doing this : traditionally , they had to suffer much more than men when infidelities them were unearthed : they risk losing their children , financial support and even risk becoming victims of conjugal violence . But in the following case both partners were revealed infidelity , and the result was surprising.