Children need to feel loved, always and unconditionally , even when they do not behave as you wish ; in fact, especially when they misbehave . Sounds weird ? Not if you think that only perceiving you as his ally , your child can feel safe to make mistakes , an integral part of learning and exploring the world in which you have brought . Your child needs to feel loved without feeling that this love disappears when you do not do what I say or you have a nervous breakdown .Give him the news that when you make mistakes , you will be there to listen and help him . Never assume that you know that you love him . Tell and tell it often . Allow your child to change, to progress and grow, not to gather weight in he past.