We risk often unfairly judge people or experiences when we look only appearances . The human soul and purpose of an experience we find beneath the surface . Only on appearances , we can see only a small part of what is really happening . And this part can be not only incomplete , but even false, projections functions that we attach on what we look at . The best gift that we can give a person is to see him as who he really is , even when he forgot this. In this way we learn to open our hearts and go beyond projections and judgments .